Dumb Blonde!

It's the 3rd day into the school holiday, right before the school holiday, ( and since my parents are back from NZ) I thought it would be a great idea to take the kids to Malacca, so once again, I brought up the sites to Malacca, things I wanna do, see and fun that the kids can have. I, again showed it to Maddog, and his reply was "Malacca, AGAIN?"

Yes, bl**dy again! I have been wanting, and waiting to go to Malacca for the past 4 years!! and have yet to been once!!! So of coz AGAIN!!!!!

The kids and I have been stuck at the shop almost 24x7 for the past months! I want to take the kids out to have some fun, things that they can't experience here in the shop or little old Sitiawan. BUT Maddog wants to go to KL, to see friends. OK, fine, KL for the million-th time! So I suggested we stay at Berjaya Time Sq, where there is a huge mall for mummy, a indoor theme park; 3D cinema; swimming pool for the kids; and Maddog still can meet up with his friends. No... Maddog went and booked a hotel by The Curve! becoz IKEA is there. (THERE IS NOTHING THERE FOR THE KIDS!!!!!) He can't seem to get it in his head!!! ARGH!!!!!

Dirty Thirties!

Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, wine in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO what a ride!"

My husband can no longer say that he is sleeping with a 20+ anymore!

Overall, it was a great day, except for the part where my husband got so drunk that he forgot to feed the kids, so we were 1 1/2 hours late to our dinner and had our guest waiting for ages. Leaving a man to do a woman's job huh?? Anyway...

The Macvays came down from KL to celebrate with us, as it was Leen's birthday as well on the same day! So we girls went for a manicure and pedicure; then for a Baliness massage and body scrub, topped off with yogurt; then we got our hair done. A nice day of pampering. We finished off with a great dinner of really really great steak!

Just another piece of paper?

For today's IT world, we still have a lot of pieces of 'Papers'.

Recently, I was speaking to a close friend of mine, funnily we both met our husband in this dodgy little bar, in a little corner of the CBD of Auckland, called 'Margarita'. She's been married for a while now, and obviously so have I, the differences I guess are that; I've got kids and she doesn't; She's got an affectionate husband and I don't; She wants to move to NZ, but can't and I can go back anytime I want, well sort of, not financially anyway. Anyhow, other than we both met our match at the same dodgy bar; we are both Malaysian Chinese married to a GuaiLo/AngMo/MatSalleh/Pakeha; we are from the same little town called Sitiawan. Being brought up in a little town has it's pros and cons. One of it's con is that, everyone knows everyone, and no one seems to have much to do but to gossip! And definitely doesn't help with the 'old' conservative thinking, so more to gossip about.

Back to the topic... Is marriage just another piece of paper among the piles of papers we already have? Do we stay in a marriage becoz of that piece of paper? OR is it becoz of our vows? OR is it becoz of our parents, especially the Asian side? OR is it becoz it's our comfort zone? Anyone in a marriage would tell you that it isn't easy, being in a mixed marriage is even harder, with the difference in culture and up bringing. I think alot of Asian marriages are held up by obligation to the 'family'. Divorce although is very common now-a-days, still it is a disgrace to the 'family' in the Asian society, and it's always the women's fault: "She is not good, that's why the husband don't want her"; "The parents never raised her up properly" hm.. er.. can't clap with one hand, ok ?? I don't think a lot of 'white ppl' would understand why a marriage between 2 ppl has to do with everyone else in the family, especially the female side and I mean the WHOLE 'family' including the grandparents, the aunts and the uncles!! BUT I'm telling you it does!!!

Are there any other couples out there that feels totally repulsed being touched by the husband ?? I went thru that stage! Is that's normal.. ?? Could it had been pregnancy hormones??? It's getting better now.. least my hair doesn't stand every time he touches or kisses me. I know there is "the 7th year itch", is there a 4th year thing?? Now that it's 5 years, oh my goodness, 5 YEARS!!!!!!! Things are getting better.. ChiwiDad is slowly turning into an 'EGG' (White on the outside, yellow on the inside) and I guess we are finally accepting each other, that I cannot change him, immediately, hehehehe, but eventually, muahahahaha. Plus we finally accepted the fact that we are stuck together(this is our longest relationship EVER! My record was 6 months, his was 4 months), so there was a lot of getting use to.. and also there is no other way out.

SO ... Carpe diem! "Eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow we die" :)